This is Clare's story of caring for her Father

Clare was working full-time when she became a Carer. She already had knowledge of the Caring world from her background in mental health. But any amount of familiarity or knowledge could never have prepared Clare for her journey with her Dad.

Clare's Dad was a father, husband and, for a long period of time, a Miner. As is often the case with workers of that time - he was strong, resilient and had an unquestionably positive attitude. But it wouldn't be until much later that everything began to change.

Ten years ago, just before Clare's Mum passed away, her father was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia.

Over the years, Clare's Dad had also suffered mini strokes, heart failure and COPD Pulmonary Fibrosis. Despite all of these sufferings, he managed to cope with the Dementia, for a while. However, when his health started to decline, Clare's grieving process started to begin.

Clare had to keep positive. Over the last two years of her Father's life, Clare became a Carer. She was aware of Derbyshire Carers Association (DCA), had an understanding of what she was entitled to, and wanted to see how DCA could help. No matter how much support she received, it was still Clare who was responsible for her Dad, and in the world of care, with responsibility comes an often heavy routine.

Clare would contact the Doctors every single week, she ordered oxygen tanks, cannulas and made sure her Dad’s blood tests were booked, as well as his appointments. Clare had to make sure his medicine was in check and that he ate regularly. All she wanted to do was provide the best care she could; Clare felt that there was no end in sight.

Four weeks from when Clare shared this story, her Dad sadly passed away. While her Caring role was over, the memories of her Dad live on. Clare said her Dad would relish the times that she or Carers would help, especially during the pandemic, and she'll always remember that last trip to the pub they got to enjoy together. 

Clare wants everyone to know that while there were hard days her Dad, he still managed to have a smile on his face. As Clare shared her story with us, she couldn’t help laugh as she explained that he was a jovial and kind-hearted man, and that she'd do it all over again if she could.

Clare wants to encourage Carers to get in touch with DCA to ensure they get the best support they need.

A huge thanks to Clare for sharing her story.